I was prescribing for an 8 year old boy (we will call him Tom) who was expressing difficulty in accepting the changes in the relationships between family and friends. That transitional period when older siblings suddenly want to stop playing with you or school friends begin to want your opinion on everything can be difficult to understand. Everything is changing and you have got to decide how to cope with these changes.
“We were on the beach with Tom’s sister and her friends to celebrate her 13th bday. After being there for about an hour, Tom created a large circle of stones and sat inside it placing his shoes as an entrance/ exit marker and told myself and Aaron that this was his circle and no one else was allowed in it unless he said. He then lay down in it for a while. He went in and out of it throughout the afternoon.
Later he decided we should dig a big hole for him to hide in. Then he wanted me to cover him over with a blanket. He waited there patiently while I went (after he asked) to encourage the girls over to see this nice place to lie down and then jumped out on them at the last minute!
He spent the last bit of the afternoon playing with a little toddler who was nearby us on the beach and was very keen to make friends … it is unusual for Tom to have much patience with little ones, usually wanting to get back to focusing more seriously on his ball skills or something like that. But he played rough and tumble with this boy for a long time – really gentle and really playful.
I see that the remedy has brought back the really playful, more innocent and less self conscious boy we know. I think (along with being out in the sun) his whole face and demeanour looks different, brighter and more open, and much less worn out looking which is such a lovely relief”!